Pruning your social network connections

June 22, 2010 / Filed under: Social Networks

I've been pruning my social network connections lately by "unfriending" people I don't communicate with.

From my perspective, there's only two possible reasons why a social network "friend" fails to connect with me, after I've attempted to connect with them:

  1. They're not reading and participating in what other people are doing/saying.
  2. They are participating with others but just don't find anything I do or say interesting.

Both reasons constitute breaking the connection, so why aren't more people doing it?? I'll be glad to make the first move by disconnecting with the person. It will save us both the social baggage.

Social networks are not about quantity, but rather quality. It's easy (and addicting!) to watch your "friend counter" go up, one by one, but that's just ego-driven mania.

I use social networks to be more social. If I'm not connecting with certain people, or the service no longer inspires, influences, and keeps me involved with others - it's worthless.

I mean how hard is it to "Like" or comment on a post every once in a while? It's dead simple, and if people just want to sit back and collect "friends," that's not participating. Just because we went to high school together, or I met you one day on the street, that doesn't mean we have to be forever linked on the latest fad in cyberspace.

Yes, there will be something new and better in the future, where we'll re-friend all over again. So don't think that Facebook or Twitter is the end of your social address book by retaining everyone possible.

If you're truly friends with someone, they'll find you again. A true friendship goes beyond the latest internet craze.

Comments/Mentions

# Sharon J at 7/22/2010 12:04 am cst

Very good points. I unfriended somebody and she wrote me this plaintive little email back, "Did you remove me from your friends list? Why?" I felt terrible, so I put her back on even though she insists on Farming, Jewelling, Flowering, Aquariuming etc. etc. etc.

Facebook should make the default that you DON'T want to see that junk and that you would have to opt in to see it. Possibly this is the case on another plane of existence, because it sure will never happen here!